The flawed concept of "Love".

Mitalius said:
Some of you may have been weary about this for some time, but since this has been on my mind for about two years, I feel as if I need to discuss/vent about it. As children in our early years, we've observed love in various Disney cartoons/fairy tales as told, where this "handsome" prince would rescue, or find this pretty princess from any form of distress. At the blink of an eye, they immediately fall in love get married shortly afterwards. Now, in some cases, I'm statistically positive something like this may have happened somewhere in the real world and created a positive outcome, but the known fact that relationships made out of the blue can make dysfunctions in them, resulting in divorces, domestic disturbances, and in some cases, death. Knowing these negative side effects resulting from building a relationship with someone unknown to another, it is the idea of that concept of love is particularly flawed in my opinion.
-How is this concept flawed?

Well, let's put it this way. Some of you may be in High school/College and had relationships with woman. As for me observing people's relationship, I have observed some of their relationships appears to be functional and normal, but then some time later they hate each other now, particularly the girl hating on the guy that which he doesn't seem to really care. . Although their reasons were unknown to me, this has me come to thinking of the most common causes for a relationship to fall. "That guy obviously did something to hurt her, or perhaps she was missing something from him that's causing her to ditch him". So I conclude that their love was merely physical attraction, and with the lack of support or actual care for one another, because most of the time that's the case. So I conclude with this, that seeing someone who is physically intriguing to one's eye, urging to build a relationship, is a bit flawed seeing as it creates dysfunctions in it.

I am free to hear other's opinions of this topic, and I'm open to any criticism if needed.
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People be having sex before marriage and imho that just blinds the love. Men want to screw ladies, ladies want that money, and vice versa. Anyone can try to tell urban tales of love, statistics, what to wear and whatnot, but it all boils down to is making a pact for better or worse. A lot people say they do, but not many have the patience and drive.

The only thing I know about love is: Loving a lady is like watering a flower. Give her too much water, she'll choke and/or be turned off. Give her too little and she wilts because she feels she's not getting the attention she deserves. Give her the right amount and pray she loves in return for better or worse.


I don't what's going on in your life Mitalius, but you ought to have confidence in yourself to make a decision. You ought worry more about the lady you're interested in and try your best for her love. If she doesn't see you the way you see her, then I can't really much. You could try to endure long heartaches with whoever you can't get over or move on. There really isn't a surefire way to win a woman's heart.

There's just working hard at it and hoping for the best. Either way, you're still young and I'm sure there will come a time when a lady will notice you for who you are. Just do your best dude.
 
TO THE ORIGINAL POSTER:

IT SEEMS YOU'RE JUST DISCOVERING THAT IT IS HUMAN NATURE FOR PEOPLE TO BE ASSHOLES AND THAT SELFLESS LOVE IS A FALSE CONCEPT. THIS IS OBVIOUSLY TRUE SINCE ALTRUISM HAS BEEN PROVEN WRONG TIME AND TIME AGAIN. DON'T LISTEN TO ANYBODY WHO INSISTS THAT LOVE WILL FIX THE WORLD, AND ESPECIALLY IGNORE ANY POSITIVE MESSAGE THEY HAVE TO GIVE YOU. EVERYONE IS LYING THROUGH THEIR TEETH OR THEY ARE TOO STUPID TO KNOW WHAT THE FUCK THEY ARE TALKING ABOUT.
 
The short version:

Find a girl you like, ask her out, see what happens. If she turns you away, there are other fish in the sea. Forget what I said earlier. You are young, so don't even think about a long term relationship yet. Just familiarize yourself with the whole dating thing.

Who knows, you might end up staying together for a really long time, you might not. It all depends on what each of you are looking for.

At your age, most girls are stupid and are completely superficial and don't have a clue what they want, so don't be surprised if she loses interest at some point. Teenage girls like a bad boy, 20-somethings like a guy with money.

Unfortunately the only women who want a genuine, honest, intelligent and loyal man are middle aged women! Thankfully by this age they usually don't care about money as much because most of them already have good jobs/careers once they hit 40.

The truth is, dating sucks no matter what age you are. I am extremely grateful that I settled down in my early twenties and haven't left yet. I get laid whenever I want to and I don't even have to try very hard. <that is one great advantage to being married.

Maybe you don't buy into this whole 'love' notion. Maybe you think it's all BS, and who knows you might be right. I chose to think of relationships as more of a 'companionship' and shared life experiences. I couldn't image life without her. After all, she did give birth to my son :)
 
Mitalius should talk to someone who cares about him like a brother or guardian. The more you keep things bottled up with unnecessary stress, the more likely you're likely to think about depressing things like suicide. Now I may be some online stranger, but even I think it's stupid to mope around for a pity party.

I get why he feels no girl has given him a chance, but not many pretty girls are gonna go over and hug Mitalius and say "I'd date you". Instead, they'd think he's an emo and friendzone him and I wouldn't blame them. Until he straightens up, be himself, and do his best, no lady will ever like him.


I don't know what Mitalius wants us to say, but I might as well tell to him to take pride in what he is first. How can he love a girl if he doesn't love himself enough? Like I mentioned earlier, he lacks confidence in who he is. So what if a girl says you're nerdy, tell the woman that's who I am and it shouldn't matter. It's a man's job to take the lead. Even if you stumble, be yourself and work hard.
 
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