The flawed concept of "Love".

[Ishimaru Jinrai]

would cause the relationship to fall apart. So at that point, I feel like it's not worth a second of having one with anyone. To sum it up, we would be compatible, we would have lots in common, and there would seeming be nothing to make us fall apart

May I ask you a question?

Why do you care more about how a relationship ends more than starting one, or just enjoying one? I just feel like you're focusing on the ends, rather than the means.

Like most things in life, happiness and beauty is often temporary, or momentary. You take what you can from life, and preserve those memories.

Your parents who you love, will eventually pass away, the people you care for as friends, will eventually die. You'll eventually realize nothing is permanent, relationships change, things happen, people change, you take what you can from life, enjoy the happy moments, and not focus on the end. =P

"Life isn't always about the destination, it's about the journey...."

"If happiness is a momentary delusion... then death is your reality?"

 

[Alex.J]

So as I'm being told that whatever's happening between the couple is not what I think it is? Because upon hearing depressing stories like "My boyfriends an asshole, or my girlfriends annoying". I guess that's compatibility issues, but often form from the examples I've explained.

What I do not understand is why people don't do anything to make the relationship work. Or perhaps there was no "love" to begin with.

I feel as if I were to have a relationship with someone, it would just be there for a time, and then something so small and insignificant, like EXCITING SEX THAT FEELS SOOO GOOD DEERRPAFSJSFJ, would cause the relationship to fall apart. So at that point, I feel like it's not worth a second of having one with anyone. To sum it up, we would be compatible, we would have lots in common, and there would seeming be nothing to make us fall apart...OH BUT DAT SEX THO IS IT GOOD????...
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I feel like you are mixing a ton of matters up. For instance, the classic "fairy tale wedding" is never actually perfect. All examples that I can bring up from movies or stories will always have that moment where something goes wrong. Cindarella for instance, she meets the prince on a deadline of midnight. Has to leave before all the magic wears off and the Prince has to struggle to find her. In about 99% of all love stories, things tend to always work out in the end. With the exception of things like Titanic and Romeo and Juliet. The lover dies in both movies.

Also, when people are super infatuated and not shutting up about their relationship. It's usually because they are overjoyed they found someone. The joy is caused by people being lonely, longing to be with people and other social factors. There's a sense of weakness if someone can't find another person to love in this society. In most cases, when something sounds too good to be true, it usually is. When something gets over hyped at the start, it's hard to usually maintain that level of hype. Think of a rollercoaster, the first one you get on is probably really fun. But if you rode the same rollercoaster 20 times in a row would it still be as hype as the first time? For the majority of people, that would be a no. I'm sure there are one or two people who would still be thrilled though.

Another aspect of this concept is sometimes people will pretend something is there when it isn't. Like I know girls who would never give up their boyfriend in fear they could never find someone else. So what do they do? Pretend their boyfriend is everything they need when they aren't. Love is definitely out there and I'm sure you'll experience it someday. But you can't find love without filtering through a few duds first.

My advice to you since you seem really young. Don't try and draw any absolute conclusions right now. Experience the world, find people who want to be with you and see what this world has to offer. I'm sure your view on love and the world will change drastically in 10 years.

 

[Cricket]

... DEERRPAFSJSFJ

Sorry, dude. You lost me at "DEERRPAFSJSFJ".

 

[Malice]

Some of you may have been weary about this for some time, but since this has been on my mind for about two years, I feel as if I need to discuss/vent about it.

2 years? Damn who hurt you?

As children in our early years, we've observed love in various Disney cartoons/fairy tales as told, where this "handsome" prince would rescue, or find this pretty princess from any form of distress. At the blink of an eye, they immediately fall in love get married shortly afterwards.

Fairy tales are just that and shouldn't be a basis for any real life decision.

but the known fact that relationships made out of the blue can make dysfunctions in them, resulting in divorces, domestic disturbances, and in some cases, death. Knowing these negative side effects resulting from building a relationship with someone unknown to another, it is the idea of that concept of love is particularly flawed in my opinion.

You can get killed walking across the street. What would you suggest, to never go outside?

-How is this concept flawed?

Well, let's put it this way. Some of you may be in High school/College and had relationships with woman. As for me observing people's relationship, I have observed some of their relationships appears to be functional and normal, but then some time later they hate each other now, particularly the girl hating on the guy that which he doesn't seem to really care. . Although their reasons were unknown to me, this has me come to thinking of the most common causes for a relationship to fall. "That guy obviously did something to hurt her, or perhaps she was missing something from him that's causing her to ditch him". So I conclude that their love was merely physical attraction, and with the lack of support or actual care for one another, because most of the time that's the case. So I conclude with this, that seeing someone who is physically intriguing to one's eye, urging to build a relationship, is a bit flawed seeing as it creates dysfunctions in it.

I am free to hear other's opinions of this topic, and I'm open to any criticism if needed.

I wouldn't come to any "factual conclusions" based on the observations of your peers who don't have a clue what they want in a relationship to begin with. At high school/college, people just tryna fuck, or they want to be in a relationship for the wrong reasons, or confuse love with lust or sex with love. Eventually people mature and figure out what they want in life and what they are looking for in a person to form a relationship with. Hopefully they are lucky enough to find what they are looking for.

Love is not the issue. Love is beautiful and can encompass so many things. You love your parents. You love your siblings. I love chicken, long walks on the beach, white women with ass, etc. The problem is people. You'll learn.

 

[Mitalius]

The problem is people. You'll learn.

Indeed it is. I'm not talking about relationships, be it with parents, and family. Relationships with another men and woman and general is my main point here. I don't see it like this, but yet looking at other peopls I often see it like this, *sees intriguing figure, "Hi I want to date you!" Often do I see this happen, and often do I see relationships fall apart afterwards when two people date eachother not knowing a damn thing about eachother. Of course I haven't been in one love relationship, so I guess I'm not supposed to understand how it works, :p.

To answer your question on who hurt me...nobody did.