The flawed concept of "Love".

Mitalius

Mitalius

BoW To MeH
Some of you may have been weary about this for some time, but since this has been on my mind for about two years, I feel as if I need to discuss/vent about it. As children in our early years, we've observed love in various Disney cartoons/fairy tales as told, where this "handsome" prince would rescue, or find this pretty princess from any form of distress. At the blink of an eye, they immediately fall in love get married shortly afterwards. Now, in some cases, I'm statistically positive something like this may have happened somewhere in the real world and created a positive outcome, but the known fact that relationships made out of the blue can make dysfunctions in them, resulting in divorces, domestic disturbances, and in some cases, death. Knowing these negative side effects resulting from building a relationship with someone unknown to another, it is the idea of that concept of love is particularly flawed in my opinion.
-How is this concept flawed?

Well, let's put it this way. Some of you may be in High school/College and had relationships with woman. As for me observing people's relationship, I have observed some of their relationships appears to be functional and normal, but then some time later they hate each other now, particularly the girl hating on the guy that which he doesn't seem to really care. . Although their reasons were unknown to me, this has me come to thinking of the most common causes for a relationship to fall. "That guy obviously did something to hurt her, or perhaps she was missing something from him that's causing her to ditch him". So I conclude that their love was merely physical attraction, and with the lack of support or actual care for one another, because most of the time that's the case. So I conclude with this, that seeing someone who is physically intriguing to one's eye, urging to build a relationship, is a bit flawed seeing as it creates dysfunctions in it.

I am free to hear other's opinions of this topic, and I'm open to any criticism if needed.
 
Oh boy. You can't really understand love without having been there and done that.

No amount of college, study or observation can replace experience in this case. When you see a couple swearing at each other, screaming at the top of their lungs, threatening to kill one another, take a step back, take a deep breath, and realize that this is actually quite normal for most people.

When people are emotional they often say things they don't really mean. When a relationship has reached the point where both people openly scream at one another, this isn't necessarily failure, but could be evolution. It simply means they have gotten past the honeymoon phase, where things are no longer based on roses and chocolate and more based on real, day to day things.

Most young people bounce from partner to partner frivolously because they can't handle relationships once is goes past the honeymoon phase. Most of them don't really know what it means to "settle down". Or sometimes when the sex becomes slightly less exiting because you've had sex with them 100 times, they assume "things just didn't work out".

Also, there is a damn good reason why long-term married couples don't have sex as often as they used to. Do you have any idea how boring it would get after having daily sex for months, years even? They space it out as to not get bored.

Now, if all of this sounds unbearable, then perhaps marriage is not for you. The "love" that Hollywood tries to portray is pure 100% BULLSHIT.

When I see a couple fighting, I just walk away. I don't judge them for it, nor do I draw any conclusions from it. Know why? Cas' I've been married for 15 years and have a 16 year old son that's why :)
 
My reasons as to why love is flawed

Someone in the relationship can lie, cheat, steal, or leave at any time.

With our current social climate, people are rarely capable of monogamy, staying in a relationship, or even forming one in the first place.

Also, honesty isn't always the best policy. People can say that you can tell them anything and they won't hold anything against you but we all know that once you are made aware of something, it will always be in your mind.

Lastly, people are more likely to say why they can't rather than why they can when it comes to relationships.
 
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