My goodness, I'm reading some of these posts and just.....no. Just because you've had a few bad experiences, don't generalize. Please don't. Did you ever thing that the gay guy you had a problem with was simply an asshole and not because he just happened to be an effeminate asshole? There are just as many "traditionally" masculine guys who are just as likely to throw you under the fucking bus as any other person would. So no femme bashing please. Scratch that, no bashing. Period