My humble advice of how to get a lover, be yourself and rely on only yourself.
Seek encouragement from your parents or someone trustworthy when lost.
They are the best "charms" that keep you emotionally stable.
A small love charm can't do that same function.
And finally don't give up when in search of a lover.
No matter how many times you fail.
The other thread seems pretty boring in my humble opinion. Sorry.
You should post in random thread. This thread is perfect for you. You can discuss anything here. Vent it out. Be warned some people can be a bit harsh, rude, etc. But, don't let them get you down too much. This is a random cyber jungle after all.