fireroses
[06] Combatant
Booty, do it......
Need advice with something.
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Booty, do it......
CyberEvil
[09] Warrior
Fireroses, the best advice you're likely to get is from Becky, here. Somebody over the internet can say anything you want to hear. I happen to be a very accomplished writer and can make someone feel whatever I want through subtle manipulations and word choice. The written word is good at that.
But it's the spoken word that counts. The look in the eye of the person you're confiding in and looking to for help. Whatever your problem, the nicest person on this planet saying all the right things still won't mean shit in the long run. You need to talk it over with someone who can see you, then YOU need to take action. If you're feeling bad, you won't stop feeling bad until you make a conscious decision to do so. I could say all the right things to make you smile or even laugh if you're in a deep depression. I have a talent for that. But when I close the IM window, or navigate away from 8wr, or in an extreme case hang up the phone, you're still alone. I keep saying "I," but this really applies to anyone online.
I'm sure the people you listed are great people (and in one case know so), but ultimately it's you making changes and coming to terms. But a person who is in close physical proximity to you is going to be much more helpful.
Oh. And I'm not a nice person. Just to save you some trouble if that thought pops into your head. ;)
EDIT: Just realized I may not have been clear enough: nothing anyone can say on these forums will help in something like this. Same concept as getting into a cold-ass lake or pool: jump right the fuck in.
But it's the spoken word that counts. The look in the eye of the person you're confiding in and looking to for help. Whatever your problem, the nicest person on this planet saying all the right things still won't mean shit in the long run. You need to talk it over with someone who can see you, then YOU need to take action. If you're feeling bad, you won't stop feeling bad until you make a conscious decision to do so. I could say all the right things to make you smile or even laugh if you're in a deep depression. I have a talent for that. But when I close the IM window, or navigate away from 8wr, or in an extreme case hang up the phone, you're still alone. I keep saying "I," but this really applies to anyone online.
I'm sure the people you listed are great people (and in one case know so), but ultimately it's you making changes and coming to terms. But a person who is in close physical proximity to you is going to be much more helpful.
Oh. And I'm not a nice person. Just to save you some trouble if that thought pops into your head. ;)
EDIT: Just realized I may not have been clear enough: nothing anyone can say on these forums will help in something like this. Same concept as getting into a cold-ass lake or pool: jump right the fuck in.
Freaky
[09] Warrior
Ziiiiinnnnngggg!
No but really Fire, the only way to make it easier to talk comfortably with people is to do more of it. And of course, a little self-confidence never hurts. :D
I think your situation is not uncommon in the digital age we live in. People feel safe and free behind the mask of the internet, cellphones, etc., but may not always be sure how to act face-to-face.
Serge2HOT4U
[09] Warrior
currently listening to the audio book of "how to win friends and influence people". the book itself was first published in 1936, revised in the eighties (so you will hear a lot of examples concerning Roosevelt, Taft, and the word "whippersnapper").
Yet this book is still in print because its advice is ageless.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People --- its wikipedia page, check it out, and if it seems up your alley, get a copy!
Yet this book is still in print because its advice is ageless.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/How_to_Win_Friends_and_Influence_People --- its wikipedia page, check it out, and if it seems up your alley, get a copy!