Ask a Virgin: Relationship Advice from Internet People

[Ghengis_John]

You know why most of you think you can't be a nice guy and get a girl? You're picking up girls in clubs.

The kind of girl who's looking for a one night stand or who'll advertise herself in front of a bar fishing for drinks is not looking for a nice guy.

Notice I say, the kind. As in there are multiple kinds of girl, and many different ways to catch one. You guys sound like idiots. Frankly I find your opinions insulting and degrading to women. My memories are filled with sweet girls who'd swoon when I kissed their hands or who'd take a walk with me and wrap themselves around my arm. And I was always a push-over, but they'd pick me up instead of walking on me. Truth be told. I don't know what else to say.

 

[teflon2105]

My model is to be yourself doesn't matter if you're nice or a class-A jackass actually the geek look is in nowadays i see chicks really digging the nerdy look now. Becoming the type of masculine man that women are uncontrollably attracted to is a process. As soon as you've think you arrived, you see there's another higher level on the horizon. Sadly, most guys never get started on this journey to adulthood. They remain little boys trapped in a man's body. But if you want to be the guy who has an continual stream of women in his life you have to commit to do whatever it takes to grow yourself into the man you were born to become.

 

[Juez]

You know I was reading a study that said girls usually have more than on dude they are seeing, they have a guy who they can be with emotionally and they have a guy who they fuck. Just sayin...

 

[Ghengis_John]

You know I was reading a study that said girls usually have more than on dude they are seeing, they have a guy who they can be with emotionally and they have a guy who they fuck. Just sayin...

Well you've got some balls I'll give you that.

I think your view of humanity is pretty ugly though. Good people exist. Honest women too. And if you can't believe that, well life really musta thrown you a bad hand.

 

[Tha_Shogun]

You know why most of you think you can't be a nice guy and get a girl? You're picking up girls in clubs.

The kind of girl who's looking for a one night stand or who'll advertise herself in front of a bar fishing for drinks is not looking for a nice guy.

Notice I say, the kind. As in there are multiple kinds of girl, and many different ways to catch one. You guys sound like idiots. Frankly I find your opinions insulting and degrading to women. My memories are filled with sweet girls who'd swoon when I kissed their hands or who'd take a walk with me and wrap themselves around my arm. And I was always a push-over, but they'd pick me up instead of walking on me. Truth be told. I don't know what else to say.

If by club you mean on campus, grocery stores, parties, park, convience stores, theater, and lectures then yea, I only pick up the girls from the club. I'm sorry, but callin' me an idiot for my opinion makes you an idiot. I can't help but feel the way I feel by seeing the things I see with my own eyes.

The thing about it is....you will RARELY see me at any club, and that's real. I meet and greet women on a daily basis and truthfully, they've all had this same characteristics of bein drawn towards people who treat them like shit. When I'm goin to the cafe on campus and a chick says to a guy, 'you gay nigga' and said guy responds back with 'bitch shut the fuck up I ain't gay' and said chick says 'omg you have never talked to me that way' and she bats her eyes then you got no choice but to believe it! There's so many i've seen.

And I'm sorry Ghengis that sounds like somethin' that happened in the 50's, not now-a-days. There's only about 10% at most that even want what you said in that post. And if they are still just ok with what you said and still want a favorable relationship, then they're probably cheating on you, or wish you where alittle more vigorous. It's extremely rare that you will find a girl like that that would want a commited relationship and still have it last.

The thing about it is I'm a nice guy by heart but majority of my hook-ups came from girls finding me attractive, or when I treated them like I didn't care what happened. Ugh...I almost named another scenerio, let me stop.......