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No need to go all ape shit over the advice reprobean has given. I actually like it a lot. Today i'm pretty sure we made eye contact for like a half a second....it was nice tho. ;-;

Of course I'm going to go ape shit. ALPHA SON.

The problem is that your anxiety. You're putting too much investment into this girl. Never focus on one girl if you're single. Don't treat her like "the one" and there's ALWAYS going to be beautiful women wherever you go. Treat all girls the same; the ones you like and don't like.

lol at "ape shit." I see what you did there.

He's 15, that's what 15 year olds do. They get crushes, let him follow his dream.

“Success depends upon previous preparation, and without such preparation there is sure to be failure.” -Confucious

He doesn't need to fail if there are ways to prevent it.

You, just be you dude. You're gonna stumble a lot, but stay true to you. I had no girlfriend experience, but I can tell you I had to stumble a lot before I realized what I want out of a lady.

I can't tell you more because then it'd complicate how you would do things. All you lack is confidence and drive to make things happen.

A quote for you...

I’m selfish, impatient and a little insecure. I make mistakes, I am out of control and at times hard to handle. But if you can’t handle me at my worst, then you sure as hell don’t deserve me at my best. - Marilyn Monroe

Reprobean needs to realize you can't be too logical on love. Don't settle with one girl? You sound like those anime dudes in those harem romance anime . Good guys, but spineless to make a decision. That's why all the ladies push him around.

A woman desires a strong willed yet devoted man. I kid you not if the spineless good man showed devotion to a one lady, the others have no choice but to back off. Common sense.

Reprobean Child be mad stupid. There is no preventing failure when it comes to dating. You have to take those L's like a man and learn from them.

It's like saying someone could research Soul Calibur without practicing it and win a tournament. Knowledge is important. But execution and balls is everything. Do you have balls Reprobean Child?

He needs to change his perspective on dating/relationships if he wants to get the girl he wants. Anxiety is stopping him and he needs to address it. Passion, interest and love are different things, Pocky. Love is something that develops over time; it's not just given away. That's why I said women fall in love slowly.

The fact you said: "Don't settle with one girl" meant u misunderstood the advice. Why invest into just one girl when you're not dating her? Only do that for a girlfriend. Partners earn the investments they get. And what You felt wasn't love. It's so much passion it's not letting him think straight. Passion is always temporary. That why you hear of people "falling out of love." Their passion is just gone

And Alex, I mentioned several times that he has to take action "Don't be too nice" "Treat all girls the same" "Don't over pursue" "Be fun and playful." It's all practice and if he keeps it up, it'll be natural. "Getting laid" is the last thing you think about, because it just happens if two people like each other. Expecting an outcome like that is needy.

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My point is this: It's lust when you see a pretty girl. It becomes love if you invest to see if it'll work. Reprobean, I don't know what you're going on about. God made us to love one girl, not dabble around like indecisive nerds or players.

Where I agree with Alex is You just needs to be himself and do his best. If this lady could be the one for him, let him stumble for a good cause. If he succeeds, congrats.

Fear is a choice. Either man up to do something or sit and make a bunch of idle theories. Anxiety only goes away if you do something. Heck some people slip up and have bad relationships, but eventually they find the one worth investing in.

You're making things complicated by saying it has to be this or that. Love is simple. Are you crazy to love that special lady or not?

This whole situation is like if a little kid who just started reading books and someone is trying to force James Joyce on him. Give him time to develop and mature. Innocent kid crushes are a thing of beauty. No reason to poop on them.

I agree.

Should just make a thread about this and have you guys battle it out LOL. I actually did message her on Fb and we had a nice conversation about different things it was nice. Btw Alex i'm 16 xD
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